Cough, cough, cough

Don't you hate having a cough? It's just SO annoying, that little itch in your throat that ALWAYS strikes right when you're finally freakin' ready to put your head on the pillow. Harmon came home with a cold about two weeks ago, which we've come to expect since he's in day care. And, EVERY time he gets a cold, I usually get it while Kevin goes unscathed. Not this time, though. Not so fast, my friend! This time, the lethal baby germs took down both of us.

A week ago Saturday, Kevin got a wicked case of the chills and went to bed early, which he never does. He said he had a bit of a sore throat, too. And, on Sunday night, I started feeling the sore throat thing. On Monday, my throat hurt so bad and so deep that it was making my ears ache. On Tuesday, we both started developing a cough and, by Wednesday morning, we both had a slight fever so we decided to call in sick. By Thursday, we woke up with a little bit of laryngitis but decided to make a go of it at work. On Friday, we both felt a lot better and were left with just a cough, a cough that won't quit. We're on our fourth bottle of Robitussin after trying some Delsym (which used to work for me before I apparently grew immune to it) and some DayQuil Cough. I'm hoping it's nearing its end but I'm not so sure. I guess I'll have to wait until bed time to find out! Of course, Harmon kicked it quickly, as he always does. But, I have noticed a bit more coughing again both yesterday and today. I hope we didn't give it back to him.

Last night, we were taking some pictures of Harmon and we got a good one of him crying. Normally, I don't like to take too many of those but this time the photo proved to be a valuable shot. We caught sight of his new pearly white – a molar poking through his bottom, right gum. I guess that explains ALL the drool and some recent ear tugging. We're not sure how long it's been there as it is damn near impossible to look inside his mouth. There could be MORE in there, for all we know.

We are pretty much done with our Christmas shopping, although, for some reason, I feel like we should get more for Harmon. I know he doesn't quite get all this Christmas and Santa stuff yet but I can't help it, I want to get him everything. I think I'm going to have to accept that fact that he's going to be a spoiled rotten first child!

Kevin and I took some extra days before Christmas to just hang out as a family as all the days between Christmas and New Year's Day are spent back and forth between families – it can be so exhausting. So, our last day in the office will be Wednesday. We'll spend Christmas Eve opening presents with my immediate family at my parents' house. We'll do Christmas morning at home and then head back to my parents' house as they are hosting the entire family on Christmas Day. The day after Christmas, we'll make the trek south to Illinois to spend a few days with Kevin's family. I'm hoping Harmon in the car seat for 6-plus hours will go OK. The first and only other time he did this trip was back in April when he still was pretty little and slept a lot – who knows what to expect this time. We'll come back on Dec. 30 and then have another couple of days to ourselves before returning to work on Jan. 3. I just can't believe the holidays are here. I look forward to them all year and now we're right smack in the middle of them. I hope everyone's holidays are going well.

Before I go, I had to share this video. My sister, Stacey, sent it to me last week, saying this is what Harmon is going to be like. At this point, I hope so. You see, Harmon has just totally abandoned saying "mama." He pretty much says everything but "mama." And, after ALL I do for that kid. It's just fantastic.

13 months old

Harmon is 13 months old today. I thought maybe time would slow down a bit after the big first birthday but momma’s wrong again. Anyway, he’s so much fun and he's learning new things every day. It’s so true – their minds are like sponges.

Anyway, for his first-year doctor’s appointment and his first-year evaluation at day care (which we still are in the process of trying to schedule), I had to fill out the Ages & Stages Questionnaire. This form basically tells you more about your child’s development. Kevin brought it home back in November (11/14) and I filled it out that night. One of the questions was about pointing, which, at that point, Harmon wasn’t really doing. But, I swear, no sooner did the damn ink dry in the “No” bubble on that form, did he started pointing at everything and hasn’t stopped since.

The night of our sixth anniversary, you know, when we did something so fun and outrageous like ordering our favorite Chinese take-out, Harmon amazed us by standing up all by himself. Kevin and I were sitting on the couch talking and he just stood up next to his toy bin and then promptly fell right on his little, diapered butt. He hasn’t tried it again lately but I sense there are more attempts to come.

On Tuesday, Dec. 5, apparently we weren’t getting Harmon’s dinner and drink ready fast enough so he crawled over to the open fridge, reached in and grabbed his sippy cup, took a big drink and then put it back on the shelf. Kevin and I both stood there, stunned.

This past Saturday, Harmon broke something of value for the first time. Although I bought drawer and cabinet locks a couple of weeks ago, we hadn't installed them yet so Harmon gave us a little reminder. He opened up one of the kitchen cabinets and pulled down my serving platter and serving bowl (that match my everyday china). Although the platter – which I barely use – was spared, my bowl was smashed to bits. I was a little mad because Pfaltzgraff is phasing out my pattern and therefore doesn’t make the bowl anymore (and even those replacement china web sites don’t have the bowl in stock). But, more than anything, I was glad the stuff didn’t fall on Harmon and cut him. So, after that drama, Kevin started putting on the locks (under supervision of the little man).

Lastly, we put up our Christmas tree this weekend and were a little nervous as to how Harmon would react. Much to our surprise, there’s no way he could be less interested! Every once in a while, he’ll take a break from playing with his 1,000,000 toy balls and crawl over to the tree. He’ll point at it, and sometimes pet it, talk to it a bit, and then go back to his baby business. It’s really funny. And, tonight, when we were watching the Grinch, he saw the Christmas tree on TV and then pointed to our tree – GENIUS, GENIUS, GENIUS! Just kidding, but I hope he is!

OK, enough Harmon. We saw a commercial for this tonight. Hilarious. Business in front, party in back! Kevin loves ALL the synonyms for the mullet.

Honeymoon memories

Six years ago today, Kevin and I returned from our honeymoon. Since we paid for our own wedding, we weren’t sure if we could afford a honeymoon. But, we didn’t want to be one of those couples who didn’t go right away yet swore they would go ONE DAY all to never go at all. So, we sucked it up and took on some extra debt. We knew we couldn’t afford something extravagant like an African safari (my best friend Betsie’s choice), but we wanted to go somewhere we probably wouldn’t get to again without some effort. So, we decided on Vancouver. I know, I know, Vancouver in December. We were crazy, right? CANADA + WINTER = COLD. And, and I can’t count how many times we were asked why we didn’t choose some tropical destination. We’re not tropical people, OK!

ANYWAY, we went to Vancouver and it was perfect (and it wasn’t that cold). We flew into Seattle (another place we hadn’t visited before) and spent a day there (doing the usual touristy things like the Space Needle, Pike Place Fish Market, University of Washington, Safeco Field, etc.) before driving up to Vancouver. It was an easy drive and, wow, so beautiful. That part of the country is so gorgeous. We stayed in Vancouver for four days and saw almost all of the sites. One of the many highlights was a day spent at Whistler, although the drive back, down the edge of a mountain with water below, in the blowing snow, aged us about 10 years. We spent lots of time walking in Stanley Park, explored Grouse Mountain, went to the GM Place to see a Vancouver Grizzlies’ basketball game (yeah, remember, before they moved to Memphis) and ate and shopped a ton. Everything was perfect!

We drove back to Seattle on Saturday as we had plans to meet up with one of very best friends, Tim Frank. His Houston Rockets were in town to play the Seattle Supersonics and he got us tickets. Tim was not able to make it to our wedding so this is how he made up for it. And, it was great to see him and fun to see a game at Key Arena.

Early Sunday, we caught a flight back to Detroit where my Mom was waiting for us. We headed back to my parents’ house to open more wedding gifts and try to recover as we both were headed back to work on Tuesday. All in all, it was an amazing time, one of the best – if not THE best vacation we’ve ever taken together. And, I guess that’s what honeymoons are supposed to be!

PS – If we would have had a digital camera at the time, we could have shared some photos. But, all we have are prints and we’re sure all the beauty would be lost in the scanning. Well, OK, here’s ONE!

BS, errrrr BCS

Well, once again, college football (Division 1-A) figured out a way to totally screw up its yearly mythical run for a national championship. In case you missed it, this past weekend former #2 USC lost to cross town rival UCLA. This sent the entire BCS world into utter chaos. Michigan, who was ranked #3, would move up. And, if #4 Florida could keep Arkansas from running one more trick play, it could hold on and win the SEC Championship and move up, too. From the minute USC lost, Kevin and I began thinking there was NO WAY all the pollsters (I use that word loosely – they're really just bitter sportswriters, senile coaches, coaches with grudges and dudes in their underwear sitting in the basement with their computers), would ALLOW Michigan to reach the national championship game and play Ohio State again, this time for the title. And, about 24 hours later, all our suspicions were confirmed. As an end-result, I guess I'm fine with this. It's the PROCESS that is so effed up beyond belief. Yes, Michigan had a chance to take down the Buckeyes on Nov. 18 and pissed it away. Yes, Michigan didn't win its own conference, which I always remember bitching about in the past (see Oklahoma in the 2003 regular season and Nebraska in the 2001 regular season). But, all these things didn't seem to factor into voting and polls and such BEFORE so I'm not sure why Michigan was made to pay the price NOW.

Frankly, I was surprised Michigan didn't drop more after losing to Ohio State. But, I guess a three-point loss in the Horseshoe had gained the Wolverines some respect so they stayed at #2. At USC continued to roll, it was no surprise the Trojans jumped Michigan and I was fine with that. Sitting at #3, Michigan was poised for a Rose Bowl bid but also waiting in the wings in case the unbelievable happened and USC tripped up. After watching the USC game, we flipped over to the Florida game and the amount of campaigning Gary Danielson did throughout the second half was disgusting. And, the minute that god-awful game was over, Florida coach Urban Meyer continued his public lobbying for his Gators to get their shot at Ohio State.

When the "results" came out the next day, via the embarrassing production called the BCS Selection Show, we weren't surprised but were left with many, many questions, thoughts, etc. Here are a few:

1. Why was Michigan ranked higher than Florida most of the season and, then, in the end when it really mattered, the teams were flipped in the rankings? Why was Michigan good enough until it was inconvenient to be good enough?

2. Why didn't the voters drop Michigan after the loss to Ohio State so as not to have to worry about the Wolverines anymore? Why didn't Florida jump Michigan then, you know, since they play in the most criminal, I'm sorry, I mean the toughest conference in America?

3. If Michigan didn't get the nod because it didn't win its own conference, how come both Louisville and Wake Forest weren't ranked ahead of the Wolverines too? They won their conferences and went 11-1 and 11-2, respectively.

4. It's been written that voters didn't want a rematch. And, if that's truly the case, shouldn't that be written into the ever-expanding list of BCS rules so we know what we're dealing with each and every year? Furthermore, why hate on a rematch NOW when it was perfectly fine for Florida to get a second shot at Florida State back in 1996? After #1 Florida lost its regular-season finale to #2 Florida State (by three points in Tallahassee – sound familiar), they were given a second shot in the 1997 Sugar Bowl. In the rematch, Florida won and claimed their first national championship.

5. Why is this sport's national championship based on voting, like say figure skating or gymnastics? And, this voting introduces biases and grudges and lobbying and campaigning – all like an election. At this point, shouldn't we just leave it to the computers? Does Urban Meyer really have to whine and cry and beg for his team to play? Shouldn't Florida's body of work speak for itself? And, why so much criticism of Lloyd Carr for NOT whining and crying and begging for his team to have a shot? I'm stunned since so many reporters and sports writers get on Coach Carr all the time for the whining and crying he does DURING the game.

6. A few years ago, there was an effort to really de-emphasize the strength of schedule factor when calculating the BSC standings. All I've heard about since Saturday at 8 p.m. is how Florida played such a tough schedule. So, strength of schedule must now matter a ton again, especially when pollsters need to come up with a reason to move Florida ahead of Michigan. And, if Ohio State played in the same conference as Michigan, why are the Buckeyes given credit for their schedule and the Wolverines given grief for it? Ohio State played Texas (#2 at the time, #19 now), in Austin, in its big non-conference game and won, 24-7. Michigan played Notre Dame (#3 at the time, #11 now), in South Bend, in its big non-conference game and won, 47-21. The rest of the schedules were pretty much the same with the exception of Ohio State not having to play Wisconsin (who now is ranked #7) during the conference season.

Ugh, there are so many things – I could go on and on. I just wish there was a real system so all this could be handled on the field. And, I'm not going this route because it's my team that got robbed – I've felt this way for a long time. It's just sad that in this day and age, college football can't put together a real system to determine a true national champion.

There is one thing I DO know, I hope Ohio State beats Florida by 10 freakin' touchdowns. Hey, unlike Ron Zook (nice program, by the way), I realize that an Ohio State win will be best for the Big 10 conference and might bring a little more money Michigan's way. In the end, isn't that what college football is all about anyway – money?

Our wedding day

Today is our sixth wedding anniversary. About this time exactly six years ago, we were watching my cousin, Brian, parading around the dance floor in a fur coat, and watching our friends and relatives take over the open bar. We still hear from many of them that our reception was the best they had ever been to, and that still holds true for many of them.

It was the perfect end to a magical day that was filled with many behind-the-scenes details many people did not know. Like how Aimee was being harassed by our wedding coordinator to take a plant leaf down the aisle, instead of her bouquet of roses (which were late, but eventually did arive) ... and how after we left the church in the limo, our first stop was -- McDonald's. Aimee had not eaten all day and was hungry, so prior to heading out for our photos, we stopped for a large fry and Diet Coke. After all of the planning and worries, all went off with few problems, well, except for the flowers.

To make a very long story short, our flowers were more than a half-hour late. They did arrive, and we were able to use some of them, but a few weeks after the wedding, we decided to try and recoup our losses in small-claims court. Well, it took us three appearances in court, and it all came down to a face-to-face meeting with our flower lady, who wanted to know how we could resolve this and not return to court. I will always remember Aimee's straight face as she said, "You can write me a check for $1,200 right now." Everything was settled out-of-court, and we laugh about it now.

But it was a day like today that really made us remember our wedding day. It was a gorgeous, sunny day -- much to Aimee's chagrin in 2000, as she wanted snow that day. Because we only had about 5 minutes to pull off our wedding, we were not allowed to take many photos in the church. They were obsessed about decorating for Advent, and if any of you plan on getting married at St. Thomas in Ann Arbor right before Christmas, if they say no, feel free to thank us for that. So, we went outside to shoot photos, and it was freezing. After our McDonald's run in the limo, we went to the Law Quad for photos. It was gorgeous in there and the highlight of our shoot. I felt so bad for Aimee having to stand there in just a wedding dress.

After our photos, we went to the reception in the Michigan Union. One of our favorite photos (the first photo on this page) came whie we were waiting to enter the ballroom. Everyone was seated and it was just us in the hallway. Finally married and our first chance to just kind of sit back and take a breath and realize that. I can still remember entering the room, with everyone standing and clapping. It was like we were on a cloud. We made our way to the head table, which is beautiful in pictures, even with my brother's Big Gulp drink sitting in the middle of the flowers in some shots.

There are two moments I will always remember from our reception. The first was my brother Steve's best-man speech. He had a hard time getting through it, and I can clearly remember him saying he was happy I had found Aimee because he knew I traveled a lot (in my previous sports information jobs) and he was always worried about me. The second came when the dance floor was opened. A lot of my extended family hail from Illinois and many of them attended the University of Illinois -- a rival (well, in their minds) of our mighty Wolverines. My Uncle Duane is a huge Illinois fan and we made him dance to "The Victors." He was a great sport about it, and arguably the best dancer that night.

But the highlight of the night for me was realizing Aimee was finally my wife. If she hadn't taken so much time deciding if we were going to get married ... (just kidding, honey). She looked absolutely beautiful. I had seen her dress before, but it is true what they say about seeing your bride come down the aisle for the first time. It takes your breath away (like Berlin). The rest of the ceremony went smoothly, and I remember just being so proud and happy when we walked down the aisle as a married couple.

Like any marriage, it has been a roller-coaster, one defintely on its way up now. We realized today that our anniversary for the forseeable future will include this little guy. There are many great memories of that day six years ago, and the years that have come and gone since then.

People often ask why we decided to get married in December. I think it is so I could get an early Christmas present -- my beautiful wife.